As we are in the colder months you may be nursing a bout of the flu—sniffles, coughs, aches, and all. Sex might not be the first thing on your mind, but if the idea of a bit of comfort and closeness still appeals, and of course you still have the urge to get your groove on, there are safe and practical ways to make intimacy manageable, even when feeling under the weather. But what types of intimacy (yes, including oral sex) could work best if you’re both up for it.

Pros of Having Sex with the Flu

1. Immunity Boost

Believe it or not, moderate intimacy can boost immunity. During sexual activities, the body releases antibodies that can help fend off infections. So, as long as you’re not feverish or overly uncomfortable, a bit of intimacy might even benefit you.

2. Feel-Good Hormones and Mood Lift

Sex, including oral intimacy, releases endorphins and oxytocin—the body’s natural feel-good hormones. These can elevate mood, reduce perception of pain, and even alleviate some of those flu-related aches. It’s a momentary distraction that can bring relief, albeit temporarily, from flu symptoms.

3. Relaxation and Better Sleep

 Intimacy can also promote relaxation and help with sleep, both of which are crucial for recovery. Many people find that physical closeness helps with sleep, and if you’re able to nod off, you might just wake up feeling a bit fresher.

Cons of Having Sex with the Flu

1. Risk of Spreading Germs

Influenza is highly contagious, especially through respiratory droplets. Whether you’re engaging in intercourse or oral intimacy, close proximity can easily pass on germs, particularly if sneezing and coughing are part of the picture.

2. Increased Discomfort

The flu tends to make the body achy, tired, and more sensitive to physical exertion, which might make any type of sexual activity feel a bit taxing. If you’re fatigued or feverish, listen to your body—sometimes rest is the kindest choice.

3. Dehydration Risks

Fevers and congestion can lead to dehydration, and adding intimacy into the mix can leave you feeling even more parched. If you do go ahead, be sure to keep water on hand and stay well-hydrated.

Best Types of Intimacy for When You’re Feeling Under the Weather

If you and your partner are still interested in intimacy despite the flu, consider a few gentle, low-effort options to stay comfortable.

1. Light, Non-Face-to-Face Positions

Avoid positions that bring you close face-to-face, as these increase the risk of sharing respiratory droplets. Instead, try lying side by side (spooning) or back-to-front positions that keep breathing space between you.

2. Seated Positions for Breathing Ease

For congestion, a slightly elevated position like sitting up can help keep the airways clear. Try a seated position with pillows propping you up or even on the edge of the bed.

3. Gentle Massage or Cuddling

 If you’re not up for full intimacy, consider a light massage or gentle cuddling. Massage can be incredibly soothing for sore muscles and keeps the closeness without requiring much physical effort.

4. Oral Sex

Here’s where it gets a bit nuanced. Oral sex could be an option if both partners are comfortable and precautions are taken to avoid face-to-face exposure. However, bear in mind that close proximity can still expose your partner to flu germs. If you’re the one providing oral, it might feel less taxing physically, but it’s still wise to be considerate about potential germ-sharing through close physical contact. Oral activities should be gentle and not too vigorous, given flu-related fatigue.

5. Avoiding Kissing

 Kissing, of course, is one of the biggest flu transmitters, as it directly exposes your partner to respiratory droplets. If you’re opting for oral sex or other intimate acts, consider skipping the kissing this time.

A Few Final Tips for Flu-Time Intimacy

   Keep It Gentle and Brief: This isn’t the time for long, strenuous sessions. Keep things light and relaxed.

Stay Warm but Not Overheated: Keep a blanket on hand if you’re prone to chills, but don’t let yourself get overly warm.

Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate: Keep water nearby. Staying hydrated is essential for flu recovery and helps prevent feeling overly drained after intimacy.

Listen to Your Body: If it doesn’t feel right, take it as a sign to rest. Sometimes, a simple cuddle or hand-holding can offer all the comfort you need.

To Wrap It Up: Should You or Shouldn’t You?

The decision to be intimate with the flu comes down to your comfort level and mutual health considerations. A light, careful approach can lift spirits and provide some temporary comfort, but don’t feel pressured. Whether you choose intimacy or simply cozy up with a warm cup of tea, nurturing yourself through the flu is what matters most.

Would you consider a bit of intimacy while under the weather, or is a warm blanket and tea more your style? Share your thoughts below!